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1
to 3 Months
Common courtesies such as closing the bathroom door when
you're doing your business, calling if you're going to be
late and cancelling dates at least 24 hours in advance
should be applied. The tricky grey area around this time is
usually the big question of when or if to say "I love you".
Use your discretion, but generally, you'll have a good feel
of if someone is going to respond in kind or hightail it for
the seas. If this is a new relationship (i.e. you're not
dating someone you previously knew), then it might be a bit
soon to talk
long-term. You can always wait for the other person to
say how they feel first.
Meeting the parents usually comes in at around the 3-month
mark. This can sometimes be a bit earlier but is usually a
sign that the guy is at least thinking about long-term.
Trust me, he wouldn't subject you to his family otherwise.
Some pieces of advice - don't overdress, be yourself and
ALWAYS rave about the food, even if you're vegetarian and
they serve you meat chops. Hide it under your lettuce if you
have too, this is not the time to "assert" yourself.
Gifts can also be tricky at this juncture. The rule of thumb
is not to go beyond what your budget would be for a good
friend. It should be something personal, otherwise you can
always go with the tried-and-true whisking them away for a
romantic weekend. Although don't go overboard with that
either. A trip to Queenstown may be fine for their birthday,
Paris would probably be too much (for both your purse and
budding relationship).
3 to 6 months
If the love word hasn't cropped up around the 6-month mark
and you're under the understanding that this is more than
casual, then now is the time to ask yourself
some questions. For example, is this what you want, and how
do you really feel about him anyway? The presents also get
bigger and better around this stage (and it goes both
ways!), so you can upgrade him to very good friend status.
One of the things you should've done by now is meet his
friends, or at least his innermost circle of close mates. He
has to have at least one or two, and sometimes meeting them
can be even more important than the 'rents.
Friends can sniff out a rat better than anyone else. If your
friends haven't started extending invites to him to come
along to group events, it may be time to just start bringing
him along anyway. That is, if you see any future in it.
6 months to 1 year
Well, we can really only take you so far - what you do after
the 6 month mark is up to you. Try not to hurry things
along, don't jump the gun when it comes to big issues such
as marriage and children (it's not cool to pressure him),
but otherwise go with your gut and enjoy the ride!
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